Love is a doozy.

Love. What is love? Love reminds me of water going down a waterfall until it meets the next section of the river and continues on its journey. See love flows outward to others and love flows inward to us as well. But what happens when that love is toxic? What happens to love then?

                Toxic love feels overwhelming. It does not touch softly or knows when to let go. It constricts. It chokes. It like rocks in a river. A roadblock on the street. Toxic love is something that interferes with the natural flow of love.

                Pure and true unconditional love forms without judgement and does not want to continue that judgement.  We can still judge and in doing so block ourselves from receiving what is meant for us but when we catch it before it can fully form itself, we can get back in alignment and continue to love ourselves and those around us.

                Toxic love will want to put unconditional love in a cage and cut its wings. But that’s not love. If you genuinely love something you let it go and see it walk through your door again with its clipped wings healed. There are no restraints. There are no cages. There is no transferring your fear unto another and although they may seem like legitimate fears…the person receiving those fears still has to live with them.

                It hurts to hold another person’s fears deep within yourself. It hurts to have to heal someone else’s fears because they fear looking at themselves and having to admit that somewhere deep down in themselves their fears affect more then them.

                But when they see the light of day and come to terms with those fears, then they know what they are doing and can heal what has brought on those fears in the first place.

                Love should never come with conditions or a set of rules. Love should be open to mistakes and allowing someone to process what they need to at their own pace. Love does not judge another nor does it openly critic another without first seeing the truth beneath what is happening. Love just is.

                Soften your gaze on another person and try to see where they are coming from and then send them love. If they can not see what you truly mean from the cloudiness of their fears, then send them love. You can not make someone see what you see, for they are only see what they want to see. Then of course send them love and then send yourself some as well because we all need love and to be loved and to be seen.

                I have overcome my fears of the future that has been told to me and have come the conclusion on my own that I just have to pick myself up (and choose to love myself as well), send love to all that need it, allow space for them to come back through and try to live without judgement. For whom am I to judge what I do not know? For whom am I to judge you for what I have not experienced? For whom am I? A spark of light? Yes. A human being? Yes. Something more than I was yesterday? Yes. As we all are.

                Go in love and you cannot go wrong. I love you all. Let keep trying to be the best versions of ourselves we can and let true love in in all its forms. High above us, here with us and everything in between. – Nebula & Christine